Why do people have coaching?
In much the same way as a sports person will use a sports coach to help them improve their performance, techniques and to get better results, people enlist the services of a life coach because they want to improve their situation and achieve the things they want out of life.
A coach can help them learn new ways of thinking and approaching situations in order to get better results. People who seek out coaching are often already successful in one or more areas of their lives, but realise that something is ‘holding them back’ or that they have lost sight of their original dreams and aspirations in the hubbub of their day to day routine.
Common coaching benefits people experience include:
- Improved focus and sense of direction,
- Increased self awareness and self belief,
- Better ability to relate to and influence others,
- Increased motivation,
- Increased resilience and ability to handle change,
- Increased sense of balance and ‘getting more from life’.
What kind of coach is right for me?
Coaching is a very fast growing and often confusing industry in the UK just now. There are ‘life coaches’, ‘business coaches’, ‘personal coaches’ ‘divorce coaches’, ‘style coaches’, ‘executive coaches’ and many other titles of coach. So how do you know who to pick and what approach is right for you?
Regardless of the title, most personal coaching is based on very similar basic principles. I can’t claim that my approach is unique, but I do know that I am unique as a person and so are you!
A coaching, or consultancy, relationship works best when there is good rapport and ‘fit’ with the client. If you choose to work with me, but then find it just doesn’t ‘feel’ right – that’s fine! I won’t put you under any pressure to continue. I am proud of my coaching success rate and the success of my clients and wouldn’t want to jeopardise that by forcing a relationship where the chemistry is wrong.
What coaching is not
There are instances when coaching may not be appropriate, or when it becomes clear that a client needs other support and help alongside the coaching. Coaching is definitely not:
- Therapy or counselling,
- A way of someone else solving the client’s problems for them.
Coaching is very much based on the present and future, whereas therapy or counselling often involves an exploration of the past. There may be instances when a coach would refer a client to a specialist therapist for help.
Coaching is based on the principle that the past does not dictate the future, but there may be clients who need further help to come to terms with past events.
Coaching is also based on the principle that you are ultimately responsible for your own life. I can encourage, empower, support and challenge, but I am not here to instruct or do a client’s job for them. To do so would undermine the control and power a client has over their own life, and in many instances would exacerbate the problem.